in 10 days, your momma will be 35 years old.
thirty five. that's like halfway to seventy. how did this happen so quickly? why don't i feel 35? oh wait. i do. sometimes when i catch a reflection of myself...and i see the crows feet. or the age spots, i realize that i'm old.
but you know what old means? old means i'm still here.
old means i'm healthy. and happy. and crows feet means i've laughed a lot. and age spots mean i've spent many a day in the warmth of the sunshine.
and so i'll take it.
i think my 30s have been the best years so far. i'm so much smarter this year than i was last year. i started thinking the other day. what would my advice be at 35 for you boys? should something happen to me...and i never get to tell you...what would i most want you to know that i haven't already said?
so here it goes.
accept who you are. accept who God made you to be. like that person you see in the mirror. because you know what? THERE IS NO ONE ELSE LIKE YOU. it's just you. and if you can't be you, then who is supposed to do that? this shouldn't be as hard for you two. boys do this better than girls, i think. i hope.
stop comparing yourself to others. just don't. there will always be someone smarter. and faster. and cooler. someone with more money. with more sense. with more stuff. but they aren't you. so that's that.
take care of your body. put sunscreen on. like all over your face. and on your neck. and on your chest. everywhere. workout for your heart. and for your happiness. but not to look like someone else. eat right because it makes you feel good. don't starve yourself and don't take weird supplements. those things haven't been studied enough. eat real food. just do. make me happy and just do that.
speaking of food, learn to cook. one day you'll probably be married and probably have kids...and you'll want to cook for them. watch your mom, your dad. or your grandmother. or the cooking network. whatever. just learn to cook. know how to make 10 things from scratch. it will make your heart happy.
sleep as much as you can. not only is it good for you, but there will be a time when you can't. because of a job. or school. or a baby. or because you are old and have prostate problems, have bladder problems or a bad back or whatever. just sleep when you can. you'll miss sleep one day.
don't give yourself away. with every relationship that goes too far, a part of you is left behind. keep yourself together. remember that one day you'll meet someone you love more than you thought possible. and not only will you love them, but they will love you. and you will want to be the best you for them. and if you've spent years changing and years breaking off pieces of yourself for other people (who aren't worth it), you'll be a shell of the person you were meant to be. and that's no fun. and that takes years of therapy to fix. and that's expensive.
learn how to communicate with everyone you meet. i honestly believe that 90 percent of problems arise because of a lack of communication. so go to therapy. talk to someone who isn't partial to your situation.
be honest. always be honest.
don't cheat. not on a test. not on a girl. not on a diet. just don't.
put God first. others second. you come third. that's it. that's all. it's an easy one (hahahahaaaa).
i hope i'm around when you boys turn 35.
i love you each to the moon and back.
so thankful you are mine.
xoxo,
mommy.
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